Whether you're new to cat parenting or just want to feel more confident handling your feline friend, learning how to properly pick up and hold a cat can make a big difference for both of you. The goal? Keep your cat comfortable and secure while avoiding stress (or surprise scratches).
Do cats like to be held?
Some cats love to be held. Others? Not so much. It really comes down to their personality, early experiences, and even their breed. Cats like Ragdolls, Scottish Folds, and Burmese are known for being extra affectionate and often enjoy being carried or cradled.
But every cat is an individual. Even among cuddly cat breeds, there are some who’d rather keep all four paws on the ground. The key is learning what your cat is comfortable with and respecting that.
Can I make my cat like to be held?
You can encourage your cat to get more comfortable with being held, but you can’t really make them love it—and that’s okay! Some cats are lap cats, some prefer to curl up next to you, and some may only enjoy affection on their own terms. Forcing it can backfire, so take things slow.
If your cat doesn’t want to be picked up, focus on other ways to bond like playtime, brushing, or just sitting quietly together.
How to pick up a cat
Before you scoop up your cat, check their mood. Are their ears back? Tail twitching? Pupils huge? These are signs they’re not in the mood to be handled, and trying to pick them up anyway could lead to hissing or swatting. Wait for a calmer moment.
When your cat seems relaxed and open to interaction, here’s how to do it:
- Crouch down and face the same direction as your cat, rather than approaching head-on.
- Gently place one hand just behind their front legs and cup their chest.
- Use your other hand to support their back legs and rear end.
- Lift smoothly and hold them close to your chest so they feel safe.
Avoid grabbing your cat by the scruff. This is outdated and uncomfortable for adult cats. If you need to move your cat and they're resisting, try guiding them into a carrier instead.
How to pick up a feral cat
Picking up feral cats is a whole different story. In general, it’s best not to pick them up at all. If a feral cat needs to be moved, like for veterinary care, the safest and most humane option is to use a live trap. If handling is absolutely necessary, wear gloves and follow expert guidelines (we love these tips from the ASPCA) to protect yourself and the cat.
How to hold a cat
Once you’ve picked up your cat, there are a few different ways you can hold them comfortably:
The cradle
The cradle: Support their chest with one hand and their back legs with the other, holding them close to your body.
Shoulder perch
Shoulder perch: Some cats love to hang out on your shoulder like a parrot. Only try this if your cat is confident and balanced!
Lap cuddle
Lap cuddle: Sit down and gently let your cat settle in your lap, keeping one hand on them for light support.
Always make sure your cat feels fully supported and never squeeze or restrain them tightly. If they start to squirm, gently set them down. Some cats just don’t like being held for long, and that’s perfectly okay.
How to hold a kitten
Kittens are a bit easier to handle, but they’re also delicate, so be extra gentle. Always pick up one kitten at a time and use both hands: one under the chest, the other supporting the back legs. Holding them close helps them feel secure. Kittens are usually more tolerant of being handled, so it’s a great time to get them used to positive interactions.
How to hold a cat to cut their nails
Trimming your cat’s nails takes a little strategy and patience. The goal is to keep them calm and still without causing stress. Choose a time when your cat is relaxed.
Here’s a simple way to position them:
- Place your cat in your lap or on a flat surface. (You can also try wrapping your cat in a towel like a “kitty burrito” to keep them from wiggling.)
- Hold the nail clippers in one hand and extend your cat’s paw for trimming in your other hand.
- Keep one arm gently against your cat’s chest to hold them steady—which arm you use depends on what feels most comfortable to you.
No matter how your cat feels about being held, the most important thing is to respect their boundaries and build trust over time. With patience, gentle handling, and a little practice, you’ll both feel more comfortable and maybe even enjoy a few cuddly moments together.
