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Signs of Cat Separation Anxiety and How To Deal With Them

Est. read time: 6 min.

Did you get used to spending all day, every day with your cat for the past couple of years? Or perhaps you recently adopted a cat and are nervous about returning to work, school, and more. Regardless of your situation, you may or may not realize how stressful it can be to leave a furry family member. The change in routine can result in confusion at best—and, at worst, in cat separation anxiety.

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Can cats have separation anxiety?

Do cats get separation anxiety? Compared to dogs, cats are less commonly diagnosed with separation anxiety. However, some cats do show signs of separation anxiety with their humans. Cats can be treated for separation anxiety with anti-anxiety medications prescribed by a vet—but there are other treatment options to try before resorting to medication. We’ll discuss how to deal with a cat with separation anxiety below!

First, cats need routine

You’re not the only creature of habit in the household. Cats take to routines just like the rest of us—the difference is when we break those routines for perfectly normal, even perfectly happy reasons, our cats don’t understand that their lives are only temporarily upended.

A vacation for you might feel like abandonment for your kitten. The start of the school year might throw everything out of orbit in your new kitty’s carefully cultivated world. Even long-standing feline family members will take issue with separation: Ever come home from a travel adventure to find a poo on top of your bed comforter? This might seem like a big “screw you” from your cat. In reality, it’s their way of self-soothing by mixing their scent with yours. (Learn more about how to get back to normal with your cat after vacation.)

Pet parents must consider the potentially traumatizing perceptions that animals experience before abruptly altering their schedules. If only we could sit our cats down and explain!

How to ease your cat into a new routine

If you have the luxury of anticipating an upheaval in your schedule, give this some forethought: Easing your cat into a new routine is the most surefire way of preventing an extreme reaction to change (such as separation anxiety).

For instance, if you know you will be returning to work soon, you can begin to leave your cat for increasingly extended periods of time a week or two beforehand. Begin by leaving the house for a few hours, a few days a week. Place toys and treats around the house for your cat to discover. If you use Feliway, a natural calming pheromone, spray some just before you go. They also offer plug-in diffusers for a more constant stream. 

Eventually, you can transition to leaving for an entire day (being mindful of food and water, naturally). And here is where you’ll want to firmly establish another routine: Take time to bond with your cat every day. This one-on-one time is enjoyable and important for your kitty, as it will give them something to expect and look forward to. Special attention can be paid in a variety of ways, whether it’s grooming, chatting, playing, or simply snuggling. (Learn more about keeping a single cat content.)

What are the signs of separation anxiety in cats?

If a change in schedule is sudden or you’re unable to ease your kitty into the new routine, pay attention to the possible signs of cat separation anxiety, including:

  • Excessive vocalization (crying, moaning, meowing)
  • Eliminating (urinating or defecating) in inappropriate places
  • Not eating or drinking while you are away
  • Excessive self-grooming
  • Vomiting (with food or hair often contained in the vomit)
  • Eating too fast
  • Destructive behavior
  • Exuberant greetings when you return home

If you notice your cat showing any of the signs, first take them to the veterinarian to rule out medical problems.

Maine Coon cat with separation anxiety lying in human's clothes closet

How to deal with a cat with separation anxiety

Separation anxiety can result in health issues or behavioral problems for your cat. Talk to your vet about ways to alleviate your cat’s stress, including short- or long-term anti-anxiety medications.

Before resorting to medication, you should try some or all of these cat behaviorist-suggested tactics:  

Act casual about leaving

In other words, don’t overdo the goodbye process. If you’re upset, then your cat may get upset.

Locate trigger objects

If there are particular objects that trigger the anxiety, such as your keys or your purse, then carry those around the house for a while each day so they are no longer an anxiety trigger.

Practice coming and going

Walk out the door and then immediately return. Each time you walk back into the room, greet your cat casually or engage in a little play session. Vary the times you do these training sessions throughout the day or evening. Gradually increase the time spent outside of the home.

Increase your cat’s environmental enrichment

Provide perches so your cat can look outside, cat trees or cat shelves to play and nap on, and various other hideaways and elevated areas.

Use puzzle feeders

Incorporate puzzle feeders while you’re away, so they’ll become very special treats for your cat during your absence.

Reward your cat

Reward your cat for the behaviors you want to see again (with petting, treats, praise, and attention), and don’t reinforce unwanted behavior like meowing and being insistent.


Continue to engage your cat in interactive play sessions on a daily basis. A rechargeable laser pointer comes in handy for this!

Leave out little reminders of yourself

This might be a worn t-shirt or other piece of clothing or bedding that carries your smell.

Leave the radio or TV on

Tune it to your usual station.

Use Feliway

Spray Feliway, a natural calming pheromone, in any room where your cat spends a lot of time or any spot where your cat has urinated, scratched, or engaged in destructive behavior while you were away.

Cat separation anxiety can almost always be remedied with a combination of behavior modification (like the tactics above) and medication. Just continue to have patience, love, and understanding for your furry companion—after all, they’re reacting this way because they love to be with you!


What causes separation anxiety in cats?

Cat separation anxiety is usually caused by a change in routine. Try to ease a cat into a new routine instead of abruptly altering their daily routine.

How do I get my cat to stop crying when left alone?

Help your cat with separation anxiety while left alone by providing environmental enrichment, such as cat shelves, window perches, and puzzle feeders. You can also purchase natural cat pheromone products for a calming effect.

Never scoop cat poop again with a self-cleaning litter box.


Photo credits:

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Cat Separation Anxiety